At one point or another, most people will go through at least some type of traumatic experience in their life. While some people’s traumas might seem more impactful than others, any kind of trauma can cause psychological damage to a person.
Although you might not be able to directly relate with the trauma your loved one experienced, there are things you can do to help this person move on from this event and work through their mental, physical, or emotional hurt.
To show you how this can be done, here are three tips to help someone recovering from a traumatic experience.
Try Not To Take Things Too Personally
When someone’s been through something traumatic, there’s really no telling how their body or mind will be reacting to and reliving those moments throughout the day. Because of this, your loved one might be feeling a lot of scary emotions that could cause them to lash out at you.
If this is the type of thing you’re currently experiencing, Melinda Smith and Lawrence Robinson, contributors to HelpGuide.org, advise that you try not to take things too personally. Many times, what your loved one is saying or doing is just a reaction to how they’re feeling and being stuck with their trauma. While these things can be hurtful, they often aren’t based off of anything you’ve done but rather what’s happened to your loved one in the past.
Learn How To Avoid Judgement
The trauma that your loved one is trying to deal has likely left them feeling very mixed emotions about what happened to them and what their role or responsibility in this event was. Because of this, it’s important that you are very careful about how you speak to your loved one in a way that avoids placing any type of judgement on them.
According to Dr. Sunda Friedman TeBockhorst, a contributor to GoodTherapy.org, you should avoid saying things about what your loved one should or shouldn’t have done, if their actions or inactions were good or bad, and whether anything they did was right or wrong. Even if you feel these things, try to avoid expressing them until your loved ones is able to better cope with their own emotions about their trauma.
Attempt To Limit Their Uncertainty And Give Them More Power
During a traumatic event, the person experiencing the trauma likely feels very uncertain about what’s going on and have very little control over their own situations. As a result of this, they might be craving to feel some sense of power and certainty in their lives as they recover.
To help give them these things, Alison Stone, a contributor to Mind Body Green, suggests that you try to give your loved one choices about even the smallest things in their life. Additionally, try to not bring on any surprises by explaining things that are going to be happening to them throughout their day.
If you have a loved one who’s recovering from a traumatic event, consider using the tips mentioned above to help you learn how you can better support this person during this difficult time.